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Friday, June 24, 2005
The duality syndrome
It is amazing how some people you look upon, stoop down so low that you wish you never knew them. "A" is one of them. Six years older to me "A" had till now always been a source of inspiration. She took a stand where her love life was concerned, made way for herself and stood her ground when going abroad for her masters was in question, when marriage time came she fought against the conventional system & made sure that her wedding was something that was done as & how she wanted it. All in all "A" has been a figure who all the girls look upon.
Today, eight years into her successful marriage "A" has two beautiful daughters & is expecting her third child. Yesterday "A" called to bid farewell. She was leaving for States for her delivery.
That took me by surprise. I was concerned if everything was alright.
She gave out a very satisfied laugh & said,
"Oh haan sub set hai. This time around things are a little different. The ultrasound report says its a male species, so we have to think long term na!"
I was kindoff shocked. This is not supposed to be the mentality of a twenty first century foreign qualified professional.
"But "A" why didnt you go at the time of the first two delilveries?"
"A" replied,
"Kanwal, i knew both the times it was going to be a a girl, so why bother? It this time that I need to plan ahead of time..."
I was so shock bound, didnt even manage to wish her well...
What discrimination! Hated myself for looking up to her at anytime in life at all....!
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Wednesday, June 22, 2005
the thorn birds
There is a legend about a bird, which sings just once in its life, more sweetly than any other creature
on the face of the earth. From the moment it leaves the nest it searches for a thorn tree, and does not
rest until it has found one. Then, singing among the savage branches, it impales itself upon the
longest, sharpest spine. And dying it rises above its own agony to outcarol the lark and the
nightingale. One superlative song, existance the price. But the whole world stills to listen, and God
in his heaven smiles. For the best is only brought at the cost of great pain...or so says the legend!
Extract from " The Thorn Birds"
By Colleen McCullough
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Friday, June 03, 2005
the upcoming trip
"Family vacations are one when you go with people you need to get away from". i am going to be a part
of one such vacation next week.
Last month my maternal grandfather got together all is children, son in laws & grandchildren & told all to
get their passports. Since two years all of us (kids & grandkids) had been after his life to take us to London
on a family vacation. (Dubai was a backup plan).
We were all excited like mad - wow finally we were going to go...yippee. I had given a two month leave application
when he said he wanted to meet us with the passports. With all my cousins, khalas & mamoo, it would be one hell of a trip.
Not that I am a very family person, but I looked foward to spending time with my cousin (a mad clan of 13 -23 year olds) & mamoo.
Finally on friday we met. Everybody was charged up. My cousins had already browsed the net for all the places that needed to be
visited in London & Dubai (because they yet had to find out where the vacation was happening).
Little did we know that we were in for a surprise (or shock for some). He was taking us all for an Umra!!!
If shock could be captured in a camera, this was the moment. All my cousins had faces that were almost touching the floor. So
much for all the wishful planning....
I was having an emotional turbulence...there was excitement, dissapointment, anticipation & dread all at the same time.
So, come this saturday, "the family vacation" should begin. Its a very intresting mix of people who are going to be in each others
face for the upcoming 18 days.
Starting with the elders, my nani who loves her grandchildren, but at the same time needs her space, my mamoo whos usually
victimised btw his sisters & his wife, my mom who manages to find time to gossip anywhere & everywhere, my elder khala, who
cant understand when we'll get time to sleep, my younger khala, whos forever running after her twin troubles, my dad who loves
to take responsibility for everyone, my nana whos a control freak, my mami, who is the new generation bahu (which is kool, but
family obviously refuses to agree, the usual saas/bahu/ naand phenomena) & me who is forever looking for her own space.
In the younger clan we have more ammusing people. Starting with my youngest sister, who is just too worried about the fact that
"agar umra din mein kiya tu dhoop mein kaalay ho jahain gay", my mamos elder daughter whos worried if she will have access to
the internet or not, my other cousin is worried about if we will get enough time to shop, she wants to go to Jeddah & spend her time
in the malls there, my youngest cousin who is such a mother clinger, she starts to cry when she even sees her dad, my khalas
son, who cant understand why he cant wear shorts underneath the ahraam, my other sister who has issues sharing a room with
the family, and my khalas daughter whos just worried if she can get sometime to go and spend with her friend in Riyadh.
Hmm...with such a variety of people, I anticipate a memorable trip full of experiences & happenings...who knows after this
next year maybe we might just end up in London or Dubai...
Too bad both my khaloos refused to go, they are going to miss out on quite a bit of entertainment!
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