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Sunday, April 10, 2005
Funny things life does...
After a lot of pondering session, i have realised that it is not my own concerns that bother me, rather it is other peoples
issues & concers that is the reason for my endless upcoming white hair! Now when life is going perfectly alright- my best friend
suddenly is going through a trauma. (For once, instead of making her see sense, I ended up crying with her).
Never before have I felt so helpless in my entire life. And this episode has made me redefine all my definations about life!
This friend of mine "J" was seeing this guy "O".
"O" is 3 years younger to "J", still studying & the youngest amongst his siblings. "J" on the other hand graduated
3 years back, is working & is the eldest amongst her siblings. "J"s parents have been on the lookout for a reasonable
proposal since a long while. "J" told them about "O". They were not too thrilled but if their daughter was happy, so were they.
"O"s mom refused to talk to "J"s parents, even though "O" realised time was running short, but nothing could persuade his mom.
"J"s parents on the other hand could'nt wait for long, because proposals were pouring in. They knew "O" was sincere, but it was
not the guy "J" was supposed to marry, it was the family. "O" kept on reassuring "j" that all would work out well. he would talk to his mom.
His khala invited "J"s family for dinner & all, but his mom was not there. One evening, "J" called crying hysterically, refusing to talk
about what happened. I rushed to her place to find out that "O"s mom has refused to accept "J" in the family. "o" still had'nt given
up hope. He suggested running away & getting married. ( Only men would come up with crazy ideas like this). I tried to make sense.
I was lost myself. "J" told her parents about this.
Exactly the next day, I got a sms from "J" at a mehndi saying that she might get engaged within the upcoming week. Shocked
out of my wits, I rushed home and called "J" who again was crying. She told me that this family had proposed & he whole khandaan thinks
that nothing could be better than this thing. The guy is a well settled 35 year old, and an only son. But what about "O"? "J" says that her
parents think that they have given "O" enough time to sort things out and they cant marry their daughter in a family where the mother in law refuses
to accept. I tell "J" to take a stand. She has turned to stone. she wants to see her family happy-not bothering about herself. Next week
is her engagement. the whole family is in a joyous mood. I, myself have never seen them so happy in the past 16 years, but all is at
the expense of their daughters happiness.
I try talking to "O", telling him to persuade his mother, but its futile. I dont understand who to go and murder. "J"s family for
not giving her time, or "O" for not being able to push his mom...
It kills me to see that "J" is starting a new life with such sadness. I was never too fond of "O" myself, but this is not how I wanted the story
to end. there is still a week to engagement, who knows things might just happen!
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