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Monday, April 04, 2005
A matter of mattering
The past week has been a detabe with self. There was a lot of thinking that happened, lots
of thoughts were stored in boxes where they belonged, certain norms were questioned, certain
beliefs pondered upon and certain opinions-reopinionated.
It all started when an acquaintance suggested that "me & him" should consider getting into
a commitment. No, it didnt take me by surprise, the timings were just kindof off! He did
admit that he didnt love me or anything, but it was a comfortable friendship where love could be developed.
I needed time to think. Being the non serious kind that I am, this issue was something that needed serious
thinking. I questioned myself, heavily. My basic foundation being, if it was right to get into a relationship
where I dont feel for the person? But on the other hand, if I am to settle down the tradational way (arranged marriage kind)
there too I would'nt necessairly "feel" for the person. My mom didnt feel for my dad before marriage...she had'nt even met
him! And they have had a good married life, mashallah.
In recent years, two of my friends got married off to total strangers, they are perfectly happy. An aunt of mine
"felt" strongly for her husband before marriage, shes leading a miserable life right now. What happened to the "feel"?
After lots of thinking and endless sleepless nights, I come to the conclusion that life is what you make of it.
Ok, so I might be a fool, but I do believe in serendipity. And getting into a commitment where I dont "feel" for the
person would mean that I am being unfair to him.
So, they say "äffirmations" work, if you say enough of them. Therefore I say "serendipity its is...serendipity
it is going to be, and serendipity is whats its going to be all about". So much for wishful thinking!
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